People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.

Jim Morrison (via zombie-nurse)

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.

 Pema Chödrön (via purplebuddhaproject)

"Self Esteem"

I am me

In all the world there is no one else like me

There are persons who have parts like me

       but no one adds up exactly like me

Therefore everything that comes out of me 

     is authentically mine because I alone chose it

I own everything about me

My body, including everything it does

My mind, including all its thoughts and ideas

My eyes, including the images of all the behold

My feelings, whatever the may be

     anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement

My mouth, and all the words that come out of it

     polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect

My voice, loud or soft

And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself

I own my fantasies , my dreams, my hopes, my fears

I own all my triumphs and successes

     all my failures and mistakes

because i own all of me 

I can become intimately acquainted with me

By so doing, I can love me

     and be friendly with me in all my parts

I can then make it possible for all of me 

     to work in my best interests

I know there are aspects about myself that

     puzzle me, and other aspects that I do no know

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself

I can courageous and hopefully 

     look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more

    about me,

However, i look and sound,

Whatever I say and do, and 

Whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me

This is authentic and represents where i am at that moment in time.

when i review later how I looked and sounded,

What I said and did, and how I thought and felt,

Some parts may turn out to be unfitting

i can discard that which proved unfitting

And invent something new for that which I discarded

i have to tools 

    to survive

     to be close to others,

    to be productive

And to make sense and order out of the world Of people and things outside of me

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me

I am me, and i am okay.

                                           Self-Esteem  by   Virginia Satir